Welcome to How To Be a Sober Girl.

I’ve set this up so any Girl who is, (or wants to be) Sober can always have a little place to explore Sober Life-no matter where she lives. We do things a little bit differently round here. I believe that there are countless ways to get Sober and that they are all of value. That anyone can begin their Sober Girl journey any time they choose. That there is no wrong way to do it.

I believe that Recovery is the greatest experience life has to offer. That it is exciting, empowering and satisfying. The life of a Sober Girl is filled with love, passion, fulfilment. Not just for the world around her, but for herself too. Sobriety is the greatest gift I ever gave myself. And whilst I cannot give that gift to you, I can show  you how I did it. Why I still do it today and show you what a Sober Girl’s world looks like.

Sobriety for me is about so much more than just not drinking. It is definitely way more than existing. There is no deprivation here. Far from it.

I believe that every moment of everyday holds within it the limitless possibility for recovery. If I can get sober and stay sober then anyone can.

Carrie xx



27 thoughts on “About

  1. Venetta says:

    Highly energetic article, I loved that a lot. Will there be a part

  2. Annabel says:

    Thank u for the inspiration. I’m really struggling but reading your website and blogs is really helping me xxx

  3. Dawn says:

    So scared sometimes….total of 13 years of sobriety, 7 on 2 off 6 on and now 2.5 yrs. off. Want to stop the insanity. Feel so full of hope at times and then take 10 steps backwards give into the addiction and feel so hopeless. Have tried AA but feel scared about trusting a “group” or another human to keep me sober.
    Thank you so much for your post, very encouraging. Looking forward to a New Year(s) of sobriety….praying to make it through Christmas sober.

  4. veronicavalli2013 says:

    I’ve nominated you for a Sunshine award, you can read about it here: http://veronicavalli.com/2014/03/the-sunshine-award/

  5. Laurie says:

    I need to begin again. How?

  6. Nigel says:

    Hi Carrie,

    As a nearly 70 year old male I realise I’m not quite a member of your intended audience, but a year and a half ago one of your Huff Post articles inspired me to stop drinking.
    That was it, after 50 years plus of “enjoying a drink” I was knocking back two or three bottles of scotch a week and worrying about the damage I was no doubt doing to myself but never quite able to quit.
    Your April 2013 article “Don’t admit you have a drink problem” was enough to give me the final push, and I stopped, just like that, okay, we’ll forget all the half hearted attempts from the past:-), and a year and a half on just don’t seem to have the inclination at all now.
    So I just wanted to say “thank you”, and to let you know your words don’t go unheeded.

    • Nigel your comment has me in tears. I honestly don’t know what to say except you are a total inspiration. Thank you SO much for taking the time to get in touch. I’m so pleased you did. You have achieved something so remarkable and nobody can take credit for that except you!

      Thank you again,

      Carrie 🙂

  7. lian wilson says:

    Thank youfor the blog, I really want to stop drinking, im only a social drinker but ive had enough of the blackouts and embarrassed feelings the day after heres to a new start

  8. Bren Murphy says:

    Brilliant how you see recovery as the greatest thing to happen in life – it is and it can start that lifelong learning process of self discovery.
    Thanks and loving your work,
    Bren Murphy

  9. meganaronson says:

    Just stumbled on your blog. As the wife of a sober addict/alcoholic for 2 years now, I just love the idea of what you’re doing, and how you’re reaching out to help other women do the same. Soberistas is such an awesome name for it, too! I don’t know exactly what you’re going through, but I do know what it’s been like to watch my husband fight for his life through this disease, and I’m grateful to every person out there fighting. I have seen how hard it is. If you ever want to check out how our love conquered his addiction, come read my blog. I’ve just started sharing our story of how we almost divorced and then became a miracle after he got sober. It’s a powerful story that I hope gives people on both sides of this disease HOPE.

  10. tmaguire87 says:

    Please help me get over he initial hump of sobriety! I am surrounded by all drinkers alike that think it’s perfectly normal to get smashed every weekend. It’s normal, we are having fun, you are letting loose etc. except my drinking turns into wasted and binge eating that turns into binge drinking and binge drinking weekends leaving me feeling restless/hopeless/depress you name it and even after it all I still seem to forget when I go to a summer bbq and I hear “it’s ok just have one drink and relax and stop after that” it never happens

  11. Theresa says:

    I’m so afraid I can’t stop. I’m in intensive outpatient. Had 2 weeks Frank’s Friday. The most I have strung together is 3 wks. I had 7 years sober!! Relapsed now for s little over 2 years. So done… Help!

  12. Stuart Whittaker says:

    Hi Carrie

    Just to say thank you for leading me in the right direction, I watch the film you were involved in and I was drinking way to much I’ve now gone sober for 3 months and I feel alot better



  13. Jeana G says:

    Am struggling. Want to be sober. Have done the Hazelden gig. How did you do it?

    • I devised a method that worked when nothing else did. There are lots of ways to do it though. I just think mine is easiest. I’ve a few videos on YouTube that probably mention it. Check out the soberistas channel on there for the longest one where i give the most tools away in an interview x

      • Patti says:

        Your article speaks to me in volumes!! I am early in my sobriety, and am looking for tools. Which YouTube video is the best to watch? Thank you so very much for being a beacon of hope for me and I’m certain many others.

      • That’s a really good question! I’ll have to think about that one and get back to you xx

  14. Cathy walton says:

    I am overwhelmed by the generosity of people like you. Your website and others like it are my guardian angels!!
    Thank you from the bottom of my heart… ( not my wine bottle!! haha )

  15. Katie Boutros says:

    Hi Carrie,

    I am a new mum and a mental health nurse and I just wanted to thank you for your articulate and well informed appearance on Lorraine. I really do feel your words will be a help to so many and will help normalize mental health. Both of you are an inspiration. Thank you and all the best to you and your beautiful family .

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