Just Ask.

photoWhen I set this place up it was with one aim: To give girls what I’d never had.


I don’t think anyone should have to struggle with sobriety. I also don’t think anyone should have to go to the lengths I did to see that it is doable. I can’t change how I got here. I don’t have to think about my journey now I’m here. I don’t think it is necessary. I tend not to talk about it unless I’m asked.

If you ask then I tell.

Often you do ask.

It’s been 8 years since I finally stopped drinking and kept doing it. I’ve become many different people since that day. Worn many different hats.

  • Bitter
  • Angry
  • Scared
  • Alone
  • Disabled
  • Shy
  • Ugly
  • Tentative
  • Hopeful
  • Free

Physically I’ve changed appearance dramatically on several occasions. All unrecognisable from the person I am now. Again it’s not something I go into unless I’m asked.

Sometimes you do.

So many scenarios brought me to here. So many incidents. Such a winding path.

Sometimes I forget the answers.

Until your questions remind me.

I forget that I lived in a world of shakiness and doubt. A world where uncertainty was my chronic condition. Now I am in a place where all is certain and unshakable.

I forget it was not always this way.

I am certain I will never drink again . Utterly certain . I’m so certain I never bother saying it.

Until you ask me.

It seems time makes me forget the basics. But the basics are all still sitting there waiting to be unearthed.

All you need do is ask.

I built this place because I couldn’t see anywhere that just gave practical examples of happy successful sobriety. But it wasn’t immediately apparent how to go about it. So I left it alone.

Now I know what it is for.

If you have any questions. Any. Doesn’t matter how basic or how specific. That is what this place is going to be used for.

Email me in private. I’ll put the answer on here so everyone has the opportunity to put it practise.

In the meantime I will try my best to remember the things that tripped me up the most and share them on here-whilst giving little examples of how my day-to-day life looks now. If it helps? Lovely. If not? We try something else.

I do read your blogs you see. And it breaks my heart to see people struggling with doubt. Doubt about their own abilities. self-belief. self-control.

It doesn’t have to be that way. But there’s no point in me even saying that if I can’t offer any alternatives.

And I can. Because I’m here. So it is possible.

So-email is lifeafterthechair@hotmail.com your personal details will go no further I promise. If you know someone who could benefit from my answering their question? Just point them over here. I don’t advertise this place. It doesn’t end up published anywhere but my blog. No one knows about it unless they look really hard. Once a blue moon I tweet about it. But it is all very low-key and I intend on keeping it that way.

No bells and whistles.

Just answers.

Ready when you are,

Carrie x


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