I went to Epcot Centre when I was a young lass. I remember they had a ride that took you into the future. It showed people having face to face conversations from different parts of the world thanks to cameras on computers. It’s slogan was “the world is shrinking”
And it is. More than 20 years later life is a lot like that ride at Epcot Centre. The world is a very small place when people can be reached at anytime from anywhere. Everything is so easy now. It’s wonderful that there are answers to every question at the touch of a keyboard.
Sadly if you are asking the wrong questions then you are totally f*cked.
F*cked because you can find evidence to support almost any theory that exists. And when it comes to sobriety, or taking tentative steps to begin a life of non-drinking, people are filled with doubt. So when you type “sober” into Google? Real Answers rarely come up. What does come up?
•Struggle. Tons and tons of blogs citing a journey of struggle and very little successful sobriety.
•People who want money off you. Who eke out a living working in the field of addiction who and want to subsidise their income from your aforementioned doubt.
•People who really like talking about themselves.
The last one I can forgive. Everyone likes to feel important. Nothing these people have to say is of any use, so it’s nicer when they sod off, get an Instagram account instead and leave everyone alone.
The first is a shame, because the moments of solidarity people feel when bonding over struggle and despair just keeps everyone stuck here where they are. It’s quite sad and it does remind me of the diaries I used to keep under my bed when I was a drunk girl. The ricocheting between despair of drinking and justification to keep doing it is not a helpful thing when it’s shared.
The middle one is the worst. People who take advantage of others and make money from their fear are horrendous as far as I’m concerned. I see them scanning Twitter, Facebook and online forums looking for their next clients and it’s just appalling to watch. If you do want guidance through early sobriety please don’t get it from anyone who makes their living full-time in the addiction industry. Nothing they have to say is of use to you. Quite frankly if they had this sobriety thing down to a tee they’d be making a living elsewhere. And being paid very decently for it.
Use the internet as a sobriety tool by looking up anything except how to stop drinking. because that’s how it’s done. Taking the focus off not-drinking and onto the rest of the world. Not sitting for hours on end sympathising with others who feel they are part of a noble struggle.
Look up hand-gliding. Learn to make sock puppets. I don’t care. It doesn’t matter what it is. Just stop Googling sobriety. Stop following blogs that talk about not-drinking. Start following ones that talk about becoming a tri-athlete or a magician. That’s where full-time successful sobriety is lived. In the wonder of discovering the world anew.
Epcot Centre circa 1990’s may be right. The world might be shrinking. And you may feel small and scared right now. But just remember. You can be physically limited and financially limited but your thoughts never have to be limited. The imagination knows no bounds, irrespective of external circumstance.So don’t let other people’s versions of struggling with sobriety inform your own opinions.
Start with letting your Search Engine Options get bigger and see where it leads you.
Because you are limitless. And I believe in you completely.