Monthly Archives: January 2017

What do you want to talk about? The answer? Or the problem?

I do don’t interviews anymore.

I used to. 

Because I used to believe that shining the spotlight on a problem, would surely help the solve it.

But all people wanted to talk about was shock-value.

To list drink quantities. And terrible behaviour. Rake over past sins.

That’s not talking about alcoholism. It’s engaging in voyeurism.

When I acquiesced to being a talking head for addiction. I also chronicled my own experiences. 

But I stopped doing that too. A few years down the line.

I grew weary of adding my own voice to the legions of those, bellowing down the abyss, in the hopes of helping those trying to scramble their way up, and out of there.

I reasoned that l had talked about it enough.

That people wouldn’t have to dig far, to find my drinking credentials.

That I never had to bring up the past again.

I also stopped going on the news like I used to.

Railing against government policy and useless NHS guidelines.

The outrage didn’t suit me.

The unhappiness I felt in expressing it. 
It wasn’t what l wanted from the life l had worked so hard to rebuild.

I was (and remain), very fortunate to have such privileged access to the mediums of communication that so many organisations afford me, whenever I want them.

But I rarely feel the impetus to use them anymore.

Something felt deeply wrong. 

So I stopped talking on tv

I stopped writing in newspapers and blogs.
And I went back to basics.

In doing so. I realised that talking about the problem, was now the problem.

I had invented a way of eradicating alcohol abuse.

Yet I never got to talk about that.
Talk about the answer. The massively simple method I had come up with.

People, as a whole, just wanted to go over and over the problem.
I honestly didn’t know what to do about that.
Then I discovered the power of the individual.

Individuals would contact me and want the answer.

They too were tired of talking about the problem.

Singular people, would email in their droves.

Then apply the solution I had come up with, to their own drinking.
100% successfully.

Every single one of them.

And then.

These individuals, would tell other individuals.

And that’s when I had to stop working as a TV presenter, and do this full time.

Because nothing was more important to me, than talking about this solution.  

 This answer.  

All day every day.  

Over and over.

All the while, watching people free themselves from this terrible prison of Alcohol abuse.

I’m the only person in the world who teaches it this way.

There are thousands of others who teach other methods  their way.

But there are millions who sit around talking about the problem.

You don’t have to do it my way.

Or anyone else Way but your own
But I beg of you.
 Ask yourself as many times as you can this week, when you engage in a conversation about non-drinking

Am l talking about the problem, or the answer?

Because only one of those things has the power to set you free


Making change in 2017

Happy 2017!

Whether you rocked the ProseccNo and are waking up with a clear head and conscience.

Or if you didn’t quite manage to stay alcohol-free last night. And feel sad about it today.

Perhaps you decided to get shitfaced last night, to start dry January as you last ever “day one”.

Or maybe you feel like you drank last night so you’ve no choice but to drink today.

Thing is, it doesn’t matter where any of us are starting from today.

And, more importantly, it doesn’t matter where anyone else is starting from, at all.
2017 is all about us.

It really can be our year.

No more using other people’s yardsticks to measure our own progress.

If you are stuck for a resolution, then just resolve to make 2017 all about you.

We can’t ever tell from the outside, the truth of someone else’s life on their inside.

We can only go off what they are telling us, using their words.

And we’ve all bent the truth with words, let’s be honest.

In 2017, no one else’s progress is any of our business.

In 2017, no one else’s beliefs are any of our business.

This year, we can move mountains in our own lives, if we simply stop wasting time staring at other people’s vistas.

Doesn’t matter what any of us did last night.

Only today can take us closer to, or further from, where we want to be.

Only we can decide what happens next.
The new year is going to happen, regardless of whether we decide to become a new version of ourselves.

Today just so happens to be an international day of deliberate change.

And whilst it’s irrelevant what anyone else decides to do with their new year.

Harnessing the mass energy of the biggest day one of the year, is an excellent use of deliberate momentum, if ever I heard one.

Happy New Year to you. I wish you the best of all things xx