What do you want to talk about? The answer? Or the problem?

I do don’t interviews anymore.

I used to. 

Because I used to believe that shining the spotlight on a problem, would surely help the solve it.

But all people wanted to talk about was shock-value.

To list drink quantities. And terrible behaviour. Rake over past sins.

That’s not talking about alcoholism. It’s engaging in voyeurism.

When I acquiesced to being a talking head for addiction. I also chronicled my own experiences. 

But I stopped doing that too. A few years down the line.

I grew weary of adding my own voice to the legions of those, bellowing down the abyss, in the hopes of helping those trying to scramble their way up, and out of there.

I reasoned that l had talked about it enough.

That people wouldn’t have to dig far, to find my drinking credentials.

That I never had to bring up the past again.

I also stopped going on the news like I used to.

Railing against government policy and useless NHS guidelines.

The outrage didn’t suit me.

The unhappiness I felt in expressing it. 
It wasn’t what l wanted from the life l had worked so hard to rebuild.

I was (and remain), very fortunate to have such privileged access to the mediums of communication that so many organisations afford me, whenever I want them.

But I rarely feel the impetus to use them anymore.

Something felt deeply wrong. 

So I stopped talking on tv

I stopped writing in newspapers and blogs.
And I went back to basics.

In doing so. I realised that talking about the problem, was now the problem.

I had invented a way of eradicating alcohol abuse.

Yet I never got to talk about that.
Talk about the answer. The massively simple method I had come up with.

People, as a whole, just wanted to go over and over the problem.
I honestly didn’t know what to do about that.
Then I discovered the power of the individual.

Individuals would contact me and want the answer.

They too were tired of talking about the problem.

Singular people, would email in their droves.

Then apply the solution I had come up with, to their own drinking.
100% successfully.

Every single one of them.

And then.

These individuals, would tell other individuals.

And that’s when I had to stop working as a TV presenter, and do this full time.

Because nothing was more important to me, than talking about this solution.  

 This answer.  

All day every day.  

Over and over.

All the while, watching people free themselves from this terrible prison of Alcohol abuse.

I’m the only person in the world who teaches it this way.

There are thousands of others who teach other methods  their way.

But there are millions who sit around talking about the problem.

You don’t have to do it my way.

Or anyone else Way but your own
But I beg of you.
 Ask yourself as many times as you can this week, when you engage in a conversation about non-drinking

Am l talking about the problem, or the answer?

Because only one of those things has the power to set you free


4 thoughts on “What do you want to talk about? The answer? Or the problem?

  1. moodymcliv says:

    Beautiful! And something I’ve been thinking about a lot. Thank you!


  2. Amelia says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this. It deeply resonates with how I feel about the increasing urge around us to “talk about our story” and use that to help others. It got to the point where I felt guilty that I wasn’t doing that, because I was one of those privileged to have recovered from my alcohol abuse. I don’t find it helpful though, to re-envision the girl I used to be.

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