When I was a drinker.
My houses were never homes.
Okay, flats. I always lived in flats as an adult. But they were never nice.
I had no idea how to make a home lovely.
How to create what I needed from a living space.
Mainly because it never occurred to me to ask myself what I needed from my home.
(My home now)
By default, the only time I was ever there was to drink, or to recover from a hangover.
That’s what I needed from my housing.
So that’s all I did. Sleep. Or drink. Or get ready to out drinking again.
Nice homes were for other people.
Not people like me, who didn’t deserve nice things, and wouldn’t know how to create them, even if I did feel I deserved them.
I stopped drinking, as we all know, or I wouldnt be writing any of this.
And when I stopped, gradually? The fog lifted.
And, over the years of non-drinking, I changed.
I changed every time a question came up in my own mind.
Little questions like “what do people do in their own homes if they don’t spend all their time drinking”
“How do people go about making their homes and lives lovely places? Do they learn it in a class somewhere?”
(I’d always felt like I’d be born without instructions everyone else seemed to already have read, so this was nothing new.)
We have the internet now. On our phones. Which is very helpful.
Most of the answers can be found on there.
If I’d stopped drinking now, instead of 11 years ago, I’d have just hopped on my phone and spent hours on Apps like Pinterest and Houzz.
I’d have stripped down my dingy flats, and made them into the homes I was discovering online.
(And then kept recreating them, because we change and evolve at a rate of knots when we become non-drinkers, so the stuff I thought was the height of chic 5 years ago, would be of no interest to me now. That’s how I know I’m doing non-drinking right, the sheer rate at which I still, even 11 years on, keep changing.)
By the time we stop drinking, our world revolves around alcohol. It’s our life. Our hobby.
The only thing we truly feel anything remotely like enthusiasm for.
So of course the world feels full of drinkers and bars and happy hours.
Understandably, no other human appears to talk about anything else except getting pissed.
Because our world has become so tiny, that it’s all we see.
But the world is nothing like that.
Most people, are nothing like that.
And right now, in 2017, there’s never been a better time to let technology show us that.
11 years ago, technology was far less accessible.
So it excites me that I get to live vicariously through the women that come to me for lessons in stopping drinking.
Because they get to use these brilliant things I never had!
I’m not going to talk about the journey I made, that resulted in me caring about my home.
Not this time, next time I will.
And I’ll follow it on with the other things I replaced drinking with, how I did it, and then how my ladies use 2017 technology to do it now.
It’s all I have to offer these days.
Because I genuinely cannot be arsed to tell anymore sad drinking stories from my past.
If alternatives are what you are looking for.
If coming full circle, back to a life that you know you had the potential to have.
Could have had, before drink got in the way.
Then stick around for the next few weeks.
Because that’s all I’ll be talking about.
If you are ready to come full circle with me, that is …