Monthly Archives: April 2017

Your App is Ready…

I’ve not been terribly active on the blogs this year.
I’ve been working on something else for you, instead.
For the past year, I’ve been working on an app to give you what I never had, but desperately needed, not just in the early days as a non-drinker. But whenever I needed a little boost.
Someone to pat me on the back, to tell me I was doing a great job.
To remind me WHY I was making this life choice-to STOP DRINKING permanently.

Because why the fuck shouldn’t we have someone sit us down, and remind us, not just daily, but several times a day, why this life of non-drinking is brilliant.
But I didn’t just want it to be airy fairy little messages on motivation. I wanted you to have tips! Actual practical tips, every damn DAY. 
Daily solutions to that question we all have: what the hell do l do with all this spare time I suddenly have, now I’m not getting rat-arsed all the time.


And I didn’t want you to have to have ANYTHING on your phone that gave away that this app had anything to do with non-drinking. 
Because whose business is it how you intend to improve your life?!

See? This is the app on my phone. Nobody would guess what it’s about.
And you don’t get notifications when a new inspirational update appears. So to get to control when you check in and have a look.
Because who wants personal notifications showing up for all-and -sundry to eyeball 👀?
Yes there are other apps out there. Dealing in the usual stuff. The woe is me. The sadness. The lack mentality. I’m sure they work beautifully.
But this is NOT what I wanted for you. I wanted HAPPINESS. 


I wanted you to feel and experience what life is like, 12 years down the line as a non-drinker without having to wait 12 years to do it.


With daily pictures of a nice life that you should expect as the norm. 
With little hints and tips that I love and that have worked so many times for the people who have used them when doing sessions with me.


I called it SO? Because so fucking what if we can’t drink, because when we start, we can’t stop? It doesn’t have to define us.


SO who cares if we now have to carve out the most amazing life for ourselves instead?


SO what if it’s different to how others seem to live?


Really and truly, these past twelve years have taught me, that the only part of Sober, worth bothering with, is SO.



I put everything I have into this app. Not just financially. But more importantly, emotionally. 
It’s the culmination of everything I’ve learned so far. Of every conversation I’ve ever had, with you, and everyone else who ever put a question to me.
It’s the end result of obsessively searching for solutions to every recovery-based struggle I ever wrestled with.

It’s very simple: download the app and you will get two free updates every day, or five for the paid version, which is £2.99 for the year.
I recommend you try the free version first. It may be all you need.
From the day you download the app, your history page will store one month’s worth of updates for you to constantly refer back to.
The first update you get will disappear after your read it once. I don’t know why. No one knows why. 
But if you check back in for the next update, whether later that day, or the day after, then it won’t ever happen again after that.
There is no signup. I get so bloody irritated by apps that want a million bits of info from me. If you do too, then this will be a welcome relief…jut download and begin. It’s that simple.

It’s also not a forum. I’ve included two great interactive sites that are run incredibly well by folk who I like personally and trust professionally, if that’s what you are looking for.


This is one-on-one. Nobody else’s business. Just a few moments of inspirations. Several times a day. To help you build strong non-drinking momentum.


It works. That’s what excites me the most.

And if you want it, then you can download it here
https://appsto.re/gb/uSWOfb.i
To my chicas who were kind enough to test the app for me, then were so lovely with their feedback-I can’t thank you enough. You have given me the confidence to tell everyone else about it. And I’m so appreciative of you ❤️
(Also you’ll be hearing a lot more from me, now everything is up and running, thanks for sticking with me whilst I went off the grid and got this done. I’m really very grateful)
Carrie xx

The first step to becoming a sober girl.

How do you become a sober girl?

If it was as easy as just not drinking anymore, then we would only ever need one attempt at it.

I had a number of failed attempts.
Not loads. I thought about “giving up” drinking, constantly.

I had notebooks full of drunken crap I would write myself, about how I would like to stop drinking.

But I never invested heavily in any action, because my self-belief was so poor, I thought I would fail at anything I tried to do.

Nearly 12 years on. This is what I now understand.
To become a non-drinker. We have to believe we deserve a non-drinker’s life.



We have to believe we are worthy of all the nice things other girls have.



To know we are capable of living the lives they live.


There’s no difference between us and those other girls.

And you know the one’s I’m talking about.
The women who let a glass of wine go untouched on the bar table in front of them.

Who look happy. And perfectly turned-out.
Who have relationships with men who adore them.

Who laugh all the time.

Who have hobbies and interests that mean they barely have time to sit in a bar.

The women who make having a night in look more glamorous and fun, than anything else we’ve done all year.

The girls whose lives just seem to work. Effortlessly. Constantly.

Who are showered with love and adoration.

These creatures were so mysterious to me, in my drinking days, that I may as well have been an alien from a different planet to them.

I would never have dared compare myself to one of them.
I didn’t deserve to share the same air as them.

There’s no way I could have tried to be like them.

I wouldn’t have known where to start.
They had no struggle like mine. They didn’t need to learn how to be a sober girl.

Alcohol played such a tiny role in their picture-perfect lives.

How sad that I didn’t realise there was barely any difference between their own lives, and mine.

What a waste, to discover, years down the line, that if I had believed in myself.
Liked myself.

Concentrated on myself.

I would have morphed into one of those girls. Effortlessly.

Because those girls. Those ones with lovely  lives. Totally indifferent to alcohol. Filled with fun and excitement and positivity.

They are the only women I surround myself with, these days.

Because that’s what I deserve.
Nice things.
Love.
Respect.
Great experiences.
Laughter.
Variety.

They are what life is supposed to be about. I get that now.


When I was drunk and hated myself and my existence.

I thought people would like me more, if I put myself down.

Or had less nice things than them.
If I wore my self-hatred like a badge of honour.

What a weird thing to think.
That’s not how to be liked.

But, more more importantly:

No one can get sober from that frame of mind.


So, how do we become a sober girl?

First and foremost: we fill our lives and thoughts with nice things.

We go to the nice places.
We say and think the nice words.
About ourselves, and about others.

We leave the crap, bargain-basement mentality, in the seedy bar, and we walk into The light with our heads held high.

We force ourselves to experience beautiful things.

We say nice things to ourselves.
About ourselves.
Until we are so saturated in love and beauty.

That our actions reflect this love.

Because when we become love. It’s very hard to sabotage ourselves.

It’s almost impossible to put up with shoddy experiences, like drinking abusively.

And it’s far, far easier, to become a sober girl.

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